FIGHT The URGE

When a young child with ADHD or without is speaking-STOP, LOOK and give them time to retrieve the words from their brain. Many people do not realize that for young children this is quite a large task for their young brain. And for an ADHD brain, word retrieval will always be a struggle. Try not to assume you know what they are going to say or speak for them.

I am an adult and this is said many times to me, "Okay, Sarah, spit it out. Get to the point!" I want to yell and say, "I eventually will. But you sitting there with annoyance on your face makes it more difficult to retrieve the correct words. I'm not trying to waste your time. I'm just trying to tell you something I felt you may find helpful."

Now think back to the child that wants to share something they think is exciting. Resist the urge to speak for her. Resist the urge to give her the words you think she’s looking for. She knows the words. When she does find them she will smile while she shares with you something amazing. And you will have gained her respect for allowing her time. Time to find the words SHE chose to tell her story.

It’s tough and goes against nature. It’s natural to want to help out those we THINK are struggling. This time, taking a deep breath and waiting is the best way to help.